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Top 3 common problems faced by modern children

Tips for parents:
Please do not wait until the problem becomes serious before rushing to solve it. Children's mental health and behavioral problems are not as simple as parents imagine.

#1Bad mood, becoming more and more rebellious

[Emotional Management] Children’s bad mood may involve many problems, and each child needs to be analyzed individually in order to prescribe the right medicine.

If you think your child's emotional problems are serious, you can seek professional help from psychological counseling or therapy. In short, helping children manage their emotions is a long-term and complex task that requires the active participation and collaboration of parents, schools, and professionals.

[Rebellion] Parents need to help rebellious children because rebellious behavior may have a negative impact on children's physical and mental health, social relationships, and academic achievement.

Rebellious behavior may cause children to:
Emotional instability, increased stress, decreased self-esteem, and even anxiety and depression, which can affect children's growth and development in the long term, affect social relationships, easily lead to conflicts with family and school, create barriers with peers, lead to loneliness and social isolation, and affect children's academic achievements (such as absences, not attending classes, not handing in homework, etc., which may affect children's academic performance and future development.)

#2 Difficult to communicate and disobedient

【Communication Skills】 Parents must help their children develop good communication skills. Good communication skills are very important for children in their daily life and future career development.

First of all, good communication skills help children build good relationships with others, express their thoughts, feelings and needs, establish good interactive relationships with others, enhance social skills, and improve learning efficiency and academic performance.

Finally, good communication skills are also very important for children’s career development. Good communication skills are needed in the workplace to help employees better communicate with colleagues, customers and superiors, enhance cooperation, and improve work efficiency and professional competitiveness.

[ Disobedience] There may be many reasons why children are disobedient. The following are some common reasons:

Developmental stage, family environment, emotional problems, lack of attention, the child's need for more independent space or health problems cause them to be emotionally unstable and disobedient.

Therefore, parents need to understand the reasons why their children are disobedient and take appropriate measures based on the specific situation, such as improving the family environment, giving children more independent space, guiding children to learn to manage their emotions, etc., to help children change their disobedient behavior.

#3 Domineering and willful

[Bullying] Children's bullying may be caused by a variety of factors. Here are some possible reasons:

1. Family environment

2 Experience and concepts

3 Personality traits

4. Lack of confidence
Many parents are unable to accurately interpret their children's overbearing behavior, so they keep putting pressure on and controlling them, causing the problem to become increasingly serious.

[Willful] There may be many reasons why children are willful. Here are some possible reasons:

Age factor : As children grow up, their cognitive and emotional development is not yet mature, and they find it difficult to control their needs and desires, so they may behave in a willful manner.
Lack of parental attention : Children feel that they are ignored or do not get enough attention in the family. They will use willfulness to attract their parents' attention.
Overprotection : Some parents may overprotect their children and cause them to lose some necessary self-control and independence, causing their children to behave willfully because they do not know how to deal with their emotions and needs.
Habitual behavior : may develop willful habits due to long-term indulgence by parents
Family environment : Family environment is one of the important factors that influence children's behavior and personality formation.

1. Why should parents not put off solving their children’s problems?

✅Answer 1: Children’s self-control and restraint develop slowly and mature, and parents think that their children are difficult to teach and communicate with.

✅Answer 2: The child is not mature enough and does not know how to resolve his own emotional problems, which directly undermines his self-confidence and self-worth.

✅Answer 3: Modern children have many temptations and it is easy for them to lose motivation to study, which affects their academic performance

✅Answer 4: Many parents have not yet mastered the correct method of "effective communication" (⚠️)
✅Answer 5: Parents’ perspectives on analyzing their children’s problems and behaviors are mostly wrong (⚠️)
✅Answer 6: Parents delaying solving problems is actually "cruel" to their children (⚠️)

✅Answer 7: Parents lack knowledge about children’s psychology and mental needs (⚠️)

✅Answer 8: Parents hope that the problem will disappear automatically, but in reality it is impossible (⚠️)
✅Answer 9: Children of authoritarian parents, doting parents, and hot-tempered parents have a lot of problems (⚠️)

✅Answer 10: Parents are unwilling to face the problem, and only rush to find a teacher to solve it when it gets seriously out of control (⚠️)

CBT and You

Introduction

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) The original author and famous representatives include Aaron T. Beck, Albert Ellis, etc. CBT is a talk therapy and psychotherapy approach to achieve goals and solve emotional, behavioral and cognitive problems that cause functional impairment.

Cognitive Behavioral Theory and Children (0-18 years old)

Targeting common child behavior problems can help:

💡Improve the old habit of procrastination
💡 Increase your self-confidence and reduce your inferiority complex
💡Improve various negative emotions and thoughts
💡Add points to self-discipline and motivation
💡Strengthen communication and soft skills
💡Increase self-esteem and happiness
💡Establish good behaviors and correct bad habits

For more serious problems, you can
💡Help manage symptoms of mental illness
💡Prevent symptoms of mental illness
💡Help improve coping with life stress
💡Methods to help improve your emotional management
💡 Help resolve relationship conflicts and learn better ways to communicate
💡Help in dealing with grief, anger, sadness
💡Help overcome emotional trauma and spiritual trauma
💡 Helps prevent chronic distorted thinking

Cognitive behavioral theory and our lives

According to NHMS data from China in 2019 , 424,000 children in the country suffer from mental illness. Based on this, many research reports show that mental health disorders such as: